Why are YOU going to Homecoming? Whether you’re wearing a pretty dress, going with a date, or just going to dance, homecoming is so fun! But preparation for any dance can be stressful. Especially around who is going with who. Going with friends to Homecoming is an amazing experience, but going with a date is different. I asked many students three questions that stood the test of whether bringing a date to Homecoming is ALL THAT.
Should the guy ask the girl? Why or why not?
A lot of stress is put upon guys to ask girls to homecoming. Traditionally, a boy would ask the girls with a poster or some flowers. But some guys have spoken up about not supporting this idea. Amonti Peguese,an 11th grader, said “Girls are always getting asked out. I think it’s time for the boys to get some glory.” Alex Jones shared that “a lot of pressure is put on guys to ask girls”. Some girls even prefer to ask guys. Ifeoluwa Deubuya said “Girls should feel free to ask a guy to homecoming if they want to because this brings girls a sense of control. She can show that she’s bold and confident. It also makes the guys feel wanted.” As you can see, there are many mixed emotions about whether or not girls can ask guys. Either way, don’t hold back. If you want to go with someone, go for it!
What is your dream homecoming proposal?
A box of chocolates is nice, the flowers are wonderful, a poster is amazing. But when, how, and why is an extravagant proposal forced upon many teenagers to perform? Some girls and guys love the idea of a public asking, but others may find the same satisfaction through a simple text. This is why knowing the person you are going to homecoming with before you ask them is someone’s biggest advantage. 11/18 people said that some kind of poster, flowers, or candy would be the ultimate grand gesture. Jeffrey Ortiz said “Jumping out of a plane, landing it of course, and pulling out a sign. Don’t do this if you think they might say no though.” However, 7 students said that simply approaching them in the hall was enough to please them. Don’t stress too much about the proposal when the person you are asking is the best part anyway.
Does bringing a date to homecoming make things awkward? (between friends, or the date?)
Spending an entire evening with someone can build tension. What do you talk about at dinner? Will pictures be weird? Will he or she dance with me? I got consistent answers throughout almost all of my interviews. Having a history with someone is important when choosing a date. Whether you are talking to the person, just friends, or dating. Already having things like inside jokes and things to talk about seems to ease the nerves of feeling pressured to talk the whole time. Anastasia Hamem said, “I think that going with a group of friends along with a date is the best way to go. This saves the couple from embarrassment, and also doesn’t make things weird”. In conclusion, being at least friends with the person is a good way to start. Don’t be worried about conversation starters, if you are going with a group of friends along with your date, the natural conversation will build.
As you can see, Homecoming is very exciting and fun. The evening is filled with loud music, fun dancing, and lots of laughs. But taking the time to truly think through what the other person wants is the best way to go. Have fun pirates!
